It's "SHORT AND" #USEYOURAND

In this world of Homo Sapiens, like all other species, we have 2 primary genders  defined  as Men & Women. 

From ages, there lies difference in these gender claiming Men to be powerful. Yes of-course, when compared to the physical structure as nature's gift, Male is always termed to be physically powerful in any species. But does that define "Females are weak??"
Simple answer- "Giving birth is not termed as weak"; on the contrary, I believe it might mean to be more powerful compare to the physical stature of Men.
Hence like Men, we Women also can't be defined as a single identity.

If a man can be a Father AND Husband AND CEO AND Helpful Buddy, women should not be restricted to Mother OR Wife OR Blogger OR Software Engineer.

My Identity -

I am a woman, a female form of Homo Sapiens. I am a Wife AND Blogger AND Software Engineer AND Dancer AND Artist AND Poet AND Supportive Friend AND many more. I can't be limited by just a single label...

 & the Journey...

Through my Childhood to a teenager, I was termed as "SHORT". My Height is 4.10. Parents suggested pull ups to get rid of the tag.  As I was still searching my way, I started  wondering whether Height is what defines someone. 

Then when stepped into High School, I was a good dancer. I had been studying Bharatanatyam from my class 1.  My Bharatanatyam Sir always appreciated my dance and stamina compared to other students. I became SHORT AND DANCER

Through my Schools & college, I learnt to Paint. As Mom was Painter, Painting was in blood. I tried my hand in Sketches, Oil Paintings, Watercolors; everything went to touch a golden stand. I became SHORT AND DANCER AND PAINTER

When I went to Engineering for my higher studies, I stood First in Class. My HOD called me as the most active, courageous student of the class & my friends as Kutti, Talkative Topper. I became SHORT AND TOPPER AND TALKATIVE AND ACTIVE  AND DANCER AND PAINTER.

Through Campus, got into a reputed Software Company. I became SOFTWARE ENGINEER AND the rest followed. Each project I entered, I shined with different roles from TESTER to TEST LEAD to LEARNING & DEVELOPMENT SPOC  to HUMAN RESOURCE SPOC, which can be combined only with an 'AND'.

Then on my free time, I started writing Poems & Blogs; which entered a new world which engulfed much more freedom to express and showcase my talent within me. I am still persisting the tag of being POET & BLOGGER by my brothers-in-law, friends & Colleagues.

When I was ready to be 'married', I faced difficulties with people rejecting by defining as she is so SHORT, but only my dear husband chosen me as CUTE AND PRETTY AND SEXY AND SHORT. I thank god to others who rejected me for not understanding the "AND" because I received the best husband in the world.

I learnt to cook just before marriage & now I give shocks to my mom, by correcting her, for now I have become a COOK

2 years back, I have purchased a DSLR, but still learning some new tricks. Hopefully to call myself a FUTURE PHOTOGRAPHER.

I am sure to find a new 'AND' as I am a GEMINI by birth date and as defined GEMINI never want to constrain by one activity, they express themselves to be in many form. I would take up this positive vibes from GEMINI and redefine myself with being FUTURE MOM & TRAVELER & PHOTOGRAPHER & NOVELIST & SOON. 

Now tell me, Why not an 'AND'??

"Talent packed" an expression from  my friend makes me so proud which further determines that I am bound to play so many character. And why not, isn't it what makes our life so beautiful?

I know I will showcase myself as I don't want to restrict myself being just in one role as "I am WOMEN", who does so many 'AND' roles and never demands visibility for it. But Lets not be invisible, Let us OUTBURST. In future, when I have my own  daughter, she should get the revised statement as "Women are more powerful than men". 

Journey from an INNOCENT student to an OUTSPOKEN engineer, I want to be described, "Prathima, not defined by just a 'SHORT', but more than that she is with an 'AND'; multitasking lady with multitude things running around her"




“This post is a part of #UseYourAnd   activity at BlogAdda   in association with Gillette Venus"

Confusion and confusion's conclusion

Its so confusing when it comes to intelligence and beauty

There is always the search for intelligence and beauty, but there is never a search for ugly nor dumb. Have you ever thought of it! What is the definition of intelligence or beauty, and what is concluded as ugly , dumb.

During my school days, i used to learn new things fast and used to question/ ask doubts on the same with my mom. My mom sometimes wouldn't be able to answer some of those silly question/s and i, used to land up tease her saying "you are so dumb mom".

But it is not so, she is very intelligent, she never says give up. If i ask her some questions which she is not able to understand, she tries to go through several magazines and finds the required information.But yes sometimes she does act dumb and immature, which makes me irritating.This is not to be mean to my mom, but i just can't understand what i should be looking for and what i should be acting as.

I thought i was intelligent, but i think i am not. My IQ is around 110 i feel which indicates normal intelligence and i handle all my sudden alarm's of my life very intellectually, But even then i say m not so intelligent enough. I might be wrong on the conclusion of my definition of the so called intelligence but for me intelligence should help in getting our task done, and mostly it never happens so, at least not in my case. My deepest desires which is hidden beneath cannot be solved by my mere intelligence. Then what's the use of it!! or is it so that i am not so intelligent enough!!!.

Never the less i don't know where is this intelligence comes from. Is it from the heart or from the brain.Mostly the scientist concludes that the intelligent is from the brain but tell me guys, have you ever got 100% in any of the exams just by using your brain, i mean until you put both your heart and mind on it, i think 100% result is not achievable.Isn't it so!!! But When my heart says yes my brain says no and vice versa.And the confusion stays.

Then comes beauty,.........ha one term which is not at all prathima friendly...hee hee hee. I am not beautiful. A direct statement but it doesn't mean i am ugly. I am tagged to be cute. Beautiful signifies elegance and a response which gives a emotional touch and u go wow all around where as cute is delicate and mostly pass by moment.

Here Beauty means the one which should be tagged with intelligence to make the final substance "perfect ". Mainly people seek for beautiful things even though it might not be so intelligent. Glass stuffs are so Beautiful but they are not so intelligent enough; when it thrips down from the table, it will break. And also To stay beautiful you need undergo lots of pain or maintenance.

But only beauty is not useful. It gives a mere satisfaction in front of all but inside it is vast dissatisfaction. Its just a useful stuff for popularity nothing much of a help hand when comes to usefulness. When i search things, i need it to be beautiful.This is what i thought. but then one day i saw something which was very beautiful but was not impressed to buy it. I mean, does it concluded that i am not so beauty freak :) is it!!

Confusion Confusion Confusion!!!

Conclusion of this confusion is if i have that intelligent, i need to use it to make the desirousness come true just like....... holding a star in my palm.But when i want to find out intelligence in substances, which i come across i sometime don't know what's wrong what's right, what's true, what's false, but when your heart and mind says OK is that not what is right, is that not what you want!!.

But i feel not always does it works, mainly people believe in seeing things rather than believing on feelings.

The beauty within cannot be adored so easily if it is absent outside.But when there is a mixture of Intelligence it will be splendid and the part where you are not beautiful will be vanquished enough.

I think i will end this for you to think about.Because surly i am confused :)

Prathi