It's "SHORT AND" #USEYOURAND

In this world of Homo Sapiens, like all other species, we have 2 primary genders  defined  as Men & Women. 

From ages, there lies difference in these gender claiming Men to be powerful. Yes of-course, when compared to the physical structure as nature's gift, Male is always termed to be physically powerful in any species. But does that define "Females are weak??"
Simple answer- "Giving birth is not termed as weak"; on the contrary, I believe it might mean to be more powerful compare to the physical stature of Men.
Hence like Men, we Women also can't be defined as a single identity.

If a man can be a Father AND Husband AND CEO AND Helpful Buddy, women should not be restricted to Mother OR Wife OR Blogger OR Software Engineer.

My Identity -

I am a woman, a female form of Homo Sapiens. I am a Wife AND Blogger AND Software Engineer AND Dancer AND Artist AND Poet AND Supportive Friend AND many more. I can't be limited by just a single label...

 & the Journey...

Through my Childhood to a teenager, I was termed as "SHORT". My Height is 4.10. Parents suggested pull ups to get rid of the tag.  As I was still searching my way, I started  wondering whether Height is what defines someone. 

Then when stepped into High School, I was a good dancer. I had been studying Bharatanatyam from my class 1.  My Bharatanatyam Sir always appreciated my dance and stamina compared to other students. I became SHORT AND DANCER

Through my Schools & college, I learnt to Paint. As Mom was Painter, Painting was in blood. I tried my hand in Sketches, Oil Paintings, Watercolors; everything went to touch a golden stand. I became SHORT AND DANCER AND PAINTER

When I went to Engineering for my higher studies, I stood First in Class. My HOD called me as the most active, courageous student of the class & my friends as Kutti, Talkative Topper. I became SHORT AND TOPPER AND TALKATIVE AND ACTIVE  AND DANCER AND PAINTER.

Through Campus, got into a reputed Software Company. I became SOFTWARE ENGINEER AND the rest followed. Each project I entered, I shined with different roles from TESTER to TEST LEAD to LEARNING & DEVELOPMENT SPOC  to HUMAN RESOURCE SPOC, which can be combined only with an 'AND'.

Then on my free time, I started writing Poems & Blogs; which entered a new world which engulfed much more freedom to express and showcase my talent within me. I am still persisting the tag of being POET & BLOGGER by my brothers-in-law, friends & Colleagues.

When I was ready to be 'married', I faced difficulties with people rejecting by defining as she is so SHORT, but only my dear husband chosen me as CUTE AND PRETTY AND SEXY AND SHORT. I thank god to others who rejected me for not understanding the "AND" because I received the best husband in the world.

I learnt to cook just before marriage & now I give shocks to my mom, by correcting her, for now I have become a COOK

2 years back, I have purchased a DSLR, but still learning some new tricks. Hopefully to call myself a FUTURE PHOTOGRAPHER.

I am sure to find a new 'AND' as I am a GEMINI by birth date and as defined GEMINI never want to constrain by one activity, they express themselves to be in many form. I would take up this positive vibes from GEMINI and redefine myself with being FUTURE MOM & TRAVELER & PHOTOGRAPHER & NOVELIST & SOON. 

Now tell me, Why not an 'AND'??

"Talent packed" an expression from  my friend makes me so proud which further determines that I am bound to play so many character. And why not, isn't it what makes our life so beautiful?

I know I will showcase myself as I don't want to restrict myself being just in one role as "I am WOMEN", who does so many 'AND' roles and never demands visibility for it. But Lets not be invisible, Let us OUTBURST. In future, when I have my own  daughter, she should get the revised statement as "Women are more powerful than men". 

Journey from an INNOCENT student to an OUTSPOKEN engineer, I want to be described, "Prathima, not defined by just a 'SHORT', but more than that she is with an 'AND'; multitasking lady with multitude things running around her"




“This post is a part of #UseYourAnd   activity at BlogAdda   in association with Gillette Venus"

Presenting well pleases all!!

Guys, Will you Shave? 

What a question, I think it is an obvious "Yes" for girls when asked about 'whether guys should shave'; but guys have something else in mind!!

To men: very rare if they haven't thought this, we ladies perhaps never understand how much irritating daily shaving can be, they would love to grow beard and waste that unnecessary time standing in-front of bathroom mirrors and shaving up hair which they have removed 1-2 days back. Such a cumbersome work, right guys!!

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To be frank, if we ladies start opening up our bundle of beauty tips, guys would go gaga!!

Anyway this is for you men so no girl talks!! So here goes...

Everyone appreciates men with perfect body, ironed dress, well combed & definitely completely shaved. Even on a job hunt, these are "the must" rules for men.   

Our company too has set of rules of grooming. Men are not allowed if they are improperly groomed and shaving is one of them. HR or security guard doesn't allow men unshaven, to enter the office premises. Sounds ridiculous, but associate has applied leave due to improper grooming.

Other than workplace too, unshaven men are given the least importance. It generates an image of incapability. Basically I believe, men grew beards to distance them from public reason being for the few of them as"It gives fun, artistic look", few more "personal issues" & few being "lazy"; it always creates a sense of aloneness and secrecy.

Gazing at the beard look, others perspective towards them changes. Hence Few a times, it creates dislike even if men are very kind and dear and generally end up being arrogant & annoying. If you disagree see "Alan from Hangover Movie Series". To add on, to give that villainous look in movies, they are  fashioned with a beard.

Well shaved face is always pleasing. Babies, dogs are perfect examples, they tend to have more liking towards shaved men compared to beard.I hope you have seen their reactions.I believe of all the people with a beard, only one person is whom we like with beard i.e. Santa Claus.( the obvious white beard men)


Shaving has an equal equation with Marriage. Ever seen any married men without Shave!! Very rare. Even while searching proposals there is very less chance for an unshaven man.

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Unshaven beard reminds, rather irritates me,  a habit of my cousin. It was during my school days, he used to greet me by swiping my hand over his cheeks. It was so annoying and sometimes hurtful. I used to scold him, "why can't you just shave?"

To talk about the men in my life, I have seen a quite a remarkable difference in my husband when I see him shaved. He looks fairer when shaved and much pleasing even if he is annoyed or angry. I think this is one of the rare moments where in even my mother in law also agrees with me.

Now isn't it Obvious...."An unshaven man results in opportunity being missed , be it professional or personal".

So Now Will you Shave???

This post is a part of #WillYouShave activity at BlogAdda in association with Gillette

I nominate Saru Singhal and Vinay Shenoy to take up the #WillYouShaveChallenge.

-Prathi